About Me

Age: 38 years old (or 47 according to Wii Fit Plus)
Location: Live in the Kansas City by way of Colorado by way of Columbia, MO by way of Southern California by way of St. Louis
Spouse: Married to the Detective for over a decade
Occupation: Full time mother of 3 shorties: Peanut – 13, Bubba/Boo – 8, and Slim/Squirt – 6

Writer – Headline NewsNYT Well Blog, syndicated on BlogHer
Blogger – I let my son dress like Daphne for Halloween in 2010, wrote a blog post about it, and then it went a tad bit viral. Last check, over 4 million views and 47,000 comments
Storyteller – The Iceberg and Listen To Your Mother
Speaker – TEDx

Cast of Characters:
Nerdy Apple/Cop’s Wife = Sarah Manley = me
The Detective = my poor, unsuspecting husband
Peanut = Our 13yo daughter
Boo = Our 8yo son
Squirt = Our 6yo son
Dude = Dude, our pug (I asked if he wanted a pseudonym also, but he never responded. Typical.)

Description: Love to read
Pretty damn funny
Sometimes not so much
Working my way through my camera’s many functions
Trying to get my footing with this whole blogging thing
Can be found on Goodreads.com and IndieBound.org under Cop’s Wife
Why is this blog called NerdyApple? Read about it here.

If you would like to contact me, please email me at sarah@nerdyapple.com

As of March 1, 2011 I am closing comments on this page. Please feel free to comment on posts or send me an email.

427 Responses to About Me

  1. Emily November 4, 2010 at 10:22 am #

    Hey ya! I am a Mizzou student and I saw this page through Facebook. I read your article about your son and Halloween, and I must say: awesome. I am a transgender woman and I am always please to see parents that are willing to let their kids explore despite what the backlash could be from other parents (who for some reason think its right to parent another person’s kid.) I deal with a lot from other people regarding my gender identity, but I can’t help but wonder how it would be if everyone raised their kids like you…

    Keep doing what you’re doing. Maybe other parents will catch on eventually. When that happens, I think the would will be a much better place.

  2. Adria November 4, 2010 at 10:21 am #

    Nevermind, you aren’t local to me. Well, know that Boo has a kindred spirit in a 5 year old boy in Oregon!

  3. Brenda November 4, 2010 at 10:14 am #

    Thank you so much for writing about your Boo’s Halloween costume. My own little Boo (Pooh-Bear I’ll call him) sounds much like your’s. Every day of pre-school he wore a Snow White dress over his own clothes, he picked out a Disney Princess backpack for kindergarten, he has Dora the Explorer sheets, he wears a pink rash-shirt with his bathing suit, and wants his hair long like Rapunzel.

    It killed me when we sent him to sport camp and the other little boys made fun of him and called him a girl. His counselor seemed mystified that I wouldn’t just simply cut his hair or buy him a less “girly” shirt and backpack. I told my Pooh-Bear that he simply wasn’t a girl, that pink is not just for girls and plenty of manly-men have long hair. He told his camp-mates that he was a boy and if they couldn’t deal with that, they could play somewhere else and stop bothering him.

    He really wanted to be Dora last year (or a princess), but his daddy wouldn’t let him. I suppose that’s a problem I should take up with my husband, but it does upset me. You are so right – it’s HALLOWEEN! They should be able to be anyone/anything they want to be on that magical night.

    You go, girlfriend, you and your precious Boo. Me and my Pooh-Bear are cheering you on!

    Love and Peace,
    Brenda Kenworthy

  4. Ani November 4, 2010 at 9:55 am #

    You are wonderful – I read some of the rest of your blog after the halloween costume – what a fun family, full of love – Great job!

  5. Stacy November 4, 2010 at 8:54 am #

    I WAS batman, superman, a power ranger, a ninja, a fully-outfitted football player, a fireman (before I knew that women could be that and that they would eventually be called firefighters) and YES, everyone thought I was a cute, tough, girl. Seriously, no one made fun–as I grew up, everyone thought I was a strong, independent tomboy. No one dared make fun (to my face, or to my mom–she would’ve had some choice words for them). You’re right, there is a double standard. Good for you for standing up to those judgmental mothers. Having unconditional support at home leads to resiliency in your son that will help him navigate through life. Good for you.

  6. Aurian November 4, 2010 at 8:38 am #

    …and she becomes famous overnight. Found you through the WordPress dashboard and just wanted to say congrats on being recognized from all corners of the world for being a supportive and loving parent. Good luck with the new found blogging fame!

  7. Amelia November 4, 2010 at 8:07 am #

    Hi there,
    I completely loved your story about your son’s Halloween costume and was interested in running it (with links back to your website) on the women’s website I run called The Frisky (thefrisky.com). The story is being reblogged like crazy on Tumblr etc. and would love to bring it to an even wider audience. Please email me if this is something you might be interested in!
    Amelia Parry
    amelia@thefrisky.com

  8. Stefan Winter November 4, 2010 at 7:40 am #

    This post was amazing, funny, educational and relevant. THANK YOU! More power to you and your son! Being gay, I completely understand the looks which you describe. Your son is lucky to have you on his side, whether he is, or isn’t gay. And there are plenty of straight cross-dressers as well! That’s what makes the world go round.

  9. Jonathan Durand November 4, 2010 at 7:37 am #

    U R the ideal woman/mom from what I’ve read. The Daphne costume handling couldn’t have been handled better, even by Dr. Phil. Although, deep down, I question something about that man… I kid Dr. Phil.

    Oh and to those who comment about how your son needs more male role models, father figures in his life, the kid’s father is a detective, period.

    Anyway what I’ve tried to get to is, from what ideals of yours that I see, I pose myself the question; why doesn’t she question Christianity? Mother’s ABC sound like good Christians, but really what is a Christian these days?

    I know I will be attacked for voicing these views, but you seem to have much more progressive and conscious thoughts than a “modern day” Christian. Have you studied Buddha? I see you practice yoga too, have you studied existentialism?

    Don’t be mad. That came from my thought that this woman should be voted as MOTHER OF THE YEAR! Questioning whether those women were good Christians triggered the last part. Christianity has some positive philosophies, don’t get me wrong, but a lot of Christians have lost the way or grasp to/of these philosophies.

  10. Scott Brown November 4, 2010 at 7:30 am #

    Hello Nerdy,

    Have you thought of writing a book. If so we’d be interested in publishing it. No joke. A little while back I did a book with syndicated called “Birdbaths and Paper Cranes.” This could similar success. I’d love to be in touch. scott@imagine-books.net

    • Nina November 4, 2010 at 10:22 am #

      In addition to her book (which is a fantastic idea – I’d buy it). Why not take the best of the most supportive replies and get with The Trevor Project to publish that as a book. I would buy that also (and I would buy copies for all of my friends and relatives).

  11. Hank Hury November 4, 2010 at 7:16 am #

    That story about your son just made my day. Thank you for sharing. What a cool Mom you are!

  12. Justin Barnes November 4, 2010 at 6:09 am #

    IF ONLY THE ENTIRE WORLD HAD A MOTHER LIKE YOU.

    Thanks so much for sharing this.

  13. Jeffrey November 4, 2010 at 4:41 am #

    1. Your son’s Daphne is absolutely adorable!
    2. You are an AWESOME MOM!!!
    3. Thank you for sharing this excellent post. I hope you and your family enjoyed a wonderfully fun-filled Halloween.

    :)

  14. Lynne November 4, 2010 at 4:34 am #

    You are a wonderful woman and an excellent mother because you understand that your children have their own personal identity and you respect their right to be themselves. Sounds pretty healthy to me! You are teaching them courage and strength…and to resist bullying as you have.

    The worst part about my son’s childhood were the judgmental parents of some of his classmates. It gets better – and your teaching your children really positive things.

    Kudos to you!!

  15. Todd Combs November 4, 2010 at 4:16 am #

    I remember being nervous around that age about putting on a pink satin princess dress a neighbor girl had. Heck, I was nervous the other day when I posted some pics of my in Halloween drag when I was 30. I’m 46, been out and about for 23 years. Even lived in San Francisco for 12 years – where else could someone be comfortable?

    Hero. Boo is my hero. I do not use this word lightly. Boo saw the troubles ahead and pushed through it. You have a wondrous son. Because you are a wonderful mother. I believe a parent’s duty is to make their childrens’ lives a little better than that. When that includes teaching them how to be exceptionalluy strong, it is, well, exceptional parenting.

    Thanks to folks like you, I feel so much more future hopeful.

    I can comfortably say “Thank you” on behalf of my parents and me.

    Todd Combs

  16. Bridget November 4, 2010 at 2:38 am #

    I wish I could have found the picture of my brother dressed as Ginger from Gilligan’s Island to share with you and Boo.
    I’ve posted a link to your blog on my FB. Calling out bullies is a most excellent sport, keep up the good work!

  17. Batsheva November 4, 2010 at 12:27 am #

    I signed up to “Tail” you. Another one who saw your son’s story shared on Facebook. But I not only loved what you had to say, I liked your style, your taste in books and TV, and my Wii Fit Plus also has me at 12 years older than I am. :-)

  18. Melanie November 4, 2010 at 12:09 am #

    You are an inspiration! If more mothers were like you, this world would truly be a better place.

    My 15-year-old daughter’s best friend is gay and words can’t even express how happy this makes me. He sleeps over often and they give each other makeovers (complete with the requisite glitter!), dress up in my daughter’s clothes (he loves her skinny jeans) and do photo sessions. He also calls me his second Mommy and says he loves being at our place because he feels he can really be himself here.

    He is a joy to have around and I believe that both my daughter and I are better people for having him in our lives. Although I’m sure he is quite unaware of it, he imparts daily lessons to those around him on strength of character, courage, acceptance, and how to truly be yourself in the face of adversity. Now, if he would only apply himself more at school and pull up his grades!

  19. Lane November 3, 2010 at 11:44 pm #

    I discovered your blog via Facebook post and reposted it myself. What you had to say about your son’s Halloween costume was truly amazing. From the looks of things you’ve gotten quite a response and the overwhelming majority appear to be positive. I, too, applaud you. Your wisdom and strength is apparent and your son is very lucky to have you as a mom.

    Lane

  20. Wayne November 3, 2010 at 11:09 pm #

    Caught your story on FaceBook and searched the net for your blog site… Wow!! you are amazing and have such a F*U*N family… Kudos!!

    As a gay-individual for over 20 years, it’s great that you support your children in whatever happens. It doesn’t matter if they are straight or gay or somewhere in between. Just knowing that you support and love them for who they are is the best!!

    Bullies come in many disguises… it sounds like you met yours as Moms A, B and C. Those women will never understand how to love their children unconditionally…

    Blessed Be!!

    Wayne

  21. Marie Gettel-Gilmartin November 3, 2010 at 6:45 pm #

    I am so glad I found your blog (a Facebook friend linked your “My Son Is Gay” post). Sounds like we have a lot of reading tastes in common. I have three blogs, two of which are the most active:

    http://marie-everydaymiracle.blogspot.com/

    And a book blog I recently started:
    http://mariesbookgarden.blogspot.com/

    I will add you to my feed list and follow your blog. I like your style!

  22. Em H November 3, 2010 at 6:29 pm #

    just saw your post about your son on tumblr. You are an inspiration and i think more mothers should be like you

    xxxx

  23. Kim November 3, 2010 at 6:24 pm #

    Hey, we live in Colorado by way of the Midwest. And my hubby is a Detective, too. Crimes Against Persons unit. Married 22 years. We have four daughters: 21, 18 , 15, and 8.

    Looking forward to watching your blog!

  24. Ifu November 3, 2010 at 5:48 pm #

    I read your post on your son’s Halloween costume, and I just thought I should say I think you’re an amazing mother, and your son is lucky to have you.
    Those mothers making snide comments were a bunch of silly hens.

    Best,
    Q

  25. Jessica September 15, 2010 at 4:01 am #

    I love your new background and look. I redid my blog list and I hope it helps me keep up better with other peoples blogs. Yours is so funny and clever–like you I guess. ( =

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