Why I left Nickmom

I quit the only paying job I currently have. And it sucks.

This happened.

And this.

Yet more.

And more here.

Great info here.

More here (with some great tips that I implemented this morning.)

Anyway, you get the point. There is a lot of controversy stirring.

I was one of their writers. I know that I wrote what I submitted, but do you? I mean, as a blogger, my reputation is really all that I have. Most of you haven’t met me in real life. Probably couldn’t pick me out of a crowd of one unless I was wearing a Daphne costume. So there has to be a level of trust between us which is really a leap of faith on your part.

I quit the only paying job I currently have. And it sucks.

(But who needs extra money? I mean, yes, Peanut’s birthday is coming up and Halloween is approaching which is usually a money-suck around our house, and of course there’s Thanksgiving and Christmas and personal property taxes and all three of my shorties want to eat. Every. Single. Day. But money, phooey.)

It sucks that I lost what little income I was bringing into the house. It sucks because I had lots of freedom to write or not write when I wanted. It sucks because I really liked the folks I worked with. It sucks because I found some validity in being a paid writer. It sucks.

But it’s not ok to steal. And I don’t want to be a party to that in any way. I realize that one blogger quitting one little freelance job won’t change the world. But it changes mine. I had to choose between additional income and my personal integrity. It was a no brainer, but it still sucks.

When this post went well everywhere, it was stolen, reposted, changed, trolled, abused, misused, etc far too many times for me to count or to keep up with. My words were stolen. My picture of my son were stolen. And it was dirty and low and plain not right. It was a betrayal. Some did it not knowing any better. Others did it maliciously. But either way, it wasn’t ok.

I have so little to give. My words. My thoughts. My heart. But I can try to give what I can with as much integrity as I can muster. I can try, every single day, to be true and honest and compassionate. I can try and fail and try again. I can try.

I can choose to do what is right or what is easy or what is most beneficial to me in some way. Those things are not always or often the same thing. So we have choices. Do I want to be a paid writer more than I want to do what I feel is right? Truthfully, I could probably have continued to write for them and most people have been none the wiser. But it would feel like I was pulling something over on someone.

I don’t want to do that to someone. Or be mistaken for someone that would.

So I quit the only paying job I currently have. And it sucks.

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71 Responses to Why I left Nickmom

  1. Truthful Mommy September 18, 2012 at 1:19 pm #

    This is awesome. Integrity is so important and I know this is hard and scary right now but something will come along. I am looking into something right now that may help out. I will tweet you if anything pans out:) fingers crossed.

  2. Jasmine September 18, 2012 at 1:17 pm #

    I think what you did elevated the blogging community. You are setting an example that so many need to follow. Thank you for this!

  3. Sarah September 18, 2012 at 1:13 pm #

    Sweet baby llamas, you guys are making me weepy. I cannot begin to tell you how much your comments and tweets and whatnot mean to me. You are the best. The very best. And I consider myself very fortunate.

  4. Selfish Mom September 18, 2012 at 1:09 pm #

    Wow. Talk about putting your money where your mouth is. Good for you, but how unfortunate that other people put you in that position. Here’s hoping you get another paying job soon – one that you can be proud of.

  5. Jenna Hatfield September 18, 2012 at 1:08 pm #

    I admire your commitment to doing what is right. Many of us haven’t in similar — or different — circumstances.

    I’ll be thinking of you.

  6. Caitlin Madden September 18, 2012 at 12:59 pm #

    **High Five!** I see big things coming your way for making this decision. I thought you were bad ass when you wrote the Daphne post and now I think you are even more bad ass. Mad props & much respect.

  7. anna September 18, 2012 at 12:43 pm #

    Really, really so awesome. Your kids will remember this a lot longer than they’ll remember whatever you bought with the extra income.

  8. WoaLG September 18, 2012 at 12:37 pm #

    It really sucks that it came to it, but, as some anonymous fan of your blog, I think you did a good thing. I hope you find something new for yourself soon though.

  9. Fadra September 18, 2012 at 12:30 pm #

    No one ever said doing the right thing was easy, but don’t you just wish it was once in a while?

    And you’re right. I know your Daphne post. But I loved it and clearly you brought something to the table that made a big player stand up and take notice. I’d love to just say keep your chin up but the truth is it’s hard to find work in this field. Good work, that pays well, that makes you feel good about yourself. (P.S. if you find some and they need help, let me know).

    But that makes your stance all the more admirable. Big giant blogging kudos to you. HUGE.

  10. Erica Mueller September 18, 2012 at 12:27 pm #

    You are all kinds of gutsy and courageous. It is so good to know there are others out there who won’t sacrifice their good name for a little money. I think this will pay off for you, big time!

  11. mygomom September 18, 2012 at 12:23 pm #

    And now its time you get hired. Your integrity speaks volumes about who you are and clearly shines through in all you do ~ including your writing. I applaud your instincts, ethics, and professionalism to not be associated with less than honorable business. Honesty, trust, and standards count and in the end, your career will surely be blessed by choosing to say not me, not my words, not my reputation. God bless!

  12. Heather Solos September 18, 2012 at 12:04 pm #

    Contact me, please, it won’t be much, but it’s something.

  13. Susan September 18, 2012 at 12:03 pm #

    First, you are (and always will be) a writer. Making hard choices based on integrity will pay off in the long run, but I know that doesn’t put food on your table this week. I wish there was something I could click on your blog to generate income for you. (just a thought).

  14. Julie/ Julieverse September 18, 2012 at 12:03 pm #

    I want to hug you and tell you that everything will be fine. You are an incredibly strong person and you’re setting an example for so many right now. Congratulations. Really. You did something big.

  15. kellywhalen818 September 18, 2012 at 11:56 am #

    This makes me appreciate your writing and voice in the community so much more to know that you stood up and said you couldn’t be associated with NickMom because of their practices. Just because you left that job doesn’t mean you aren’t a writer. And now all the people should hire you.

  16. Amanda @ High Impact Mom September 18, 2012 at 11:53 am #

    All I can say is you are my hero in this case. You are a wonderful writer and your personal integrity is worth so much more than the income (I know it’s easy for me to say).

  17. tryityoumightlikeit September 18, 2012 at 11:48 am #

    You have to consider the example that you’re setting for your children and you’ve made the right choice. Keep on doing what you’re doing and it’ll pull together because what you have to say is valuable.

  18. Vivien September 18, 2012 at 11:31 am #

    I admire you for your brave decision! Brave because turning your back on a paying job is a huge personal risk. I am sure it will pay off for you in the long run. Well done!

  19. Heather September 18, 2012 at 11:03 am #

    This makes me so sad. To have ONLY followed over to NickMoms BECAUSE of you…I never would have gone to it or navigated around once there. Because I felt that if you were writing for them there would be possibly some similar “real” mom voices there, and not the commercialization of blogging that I would otherwise anticipate from a conglomerate. The desperation they’ve shown by including this type of content DOES make the overall audience not trust. Please know that this is in NO WAY the feeling of your followers, we know just how original your voice is…it’s obvious in all your posts.

  20. Marie September 18, 2012 at 10:53 am #

    You did the right thing, but it must have been a very difficult thing to do! I’ve written a series of articles on copyright for my company, and I view it as my mission to educate people. It’s a tough road though! Thanks for fighting the good fight.

  21. Nicole W. September 18, 2012 at 10:41 am #

    Integrity is the word that comes to mind, and in the world we live in, it is not easy to stand up for what is right… especially when it means taking something away from your family (in your case, financial). I know what you did was hard, but I know you’ll look back and be glad that you did it. It has already been suggested that you look at other parenting magazines, but also look into Skirt! magazine. Not all of their positions are paid, but there are some that are. I know that I’d like to read what you have to say! :)

  22. alexinmadison September 18, 2012 at 10:35 am #

    Yes. It sucks. But you did the right thing and, in the end, you have to be able to set an example for the shorties. Stealing is wrong – so wrong, in fact, that we’re going to be slightly less solvent for a bit. There will be other paying gigs – I promise. Chin up, buttercup!

  23. Veronica September 18, 2012 at 10:33 am #

    Im proud of you. Too many bloggers bow to the almighty dollar at the expense of their convictions. I’m keeping an eye out for freelance work for you. You are amazing and deserve work that wont compromise your integrity.

  24. superhappyjen September 18, 2012 at 10:27 am #

    Good for you. And don’t worry, there are other places to submit to. Query a few parenting magazines. You’ll get that validity back again.

  25. hamptonmomof4 September 18, 2012 at 10:10 am #

    All I can say is wow! It takes a really big person to choose integrity over money. And I’d like to say I’d do the same. But one never really know what they would do until put into the same exact situation. Kudos to you and I think you are a wonderful role model. I am sorry that your story, writings and picture have been stolen on so many numerous occasions. But once again, you teach a great lesson!

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