Why I left Nickmom

I quit the only paying job I currently have. And it sucks.

This happened.

And this.

Yet more.

And more here.

Great info here.

More here (with some great tips that I implemented this morning.)

Anyway, you get the point. There is a lot of controversy stirring.

I was one of their writers. I know that I wrote what I submitted, but do you? I mean, as a blogger, my reputation is really all that I have. Most of you haven’t met me in real life. Probably couldn’t pick me out of a crowd of one unless I was wearing a Daphne costume. So there has to be a level of trust between us which is really a leap of faith on your part.

I quit the only paying job I currently have. And it sucks.

(But who needs extra money? I mean, yes, Peanut’s birthday is coming up and Halloween is approaching which is usually a money-suck around our house, and of course there’s Thanksgiving and Christmas and personal property taxes and all three of my shorties want to eat. Every. Single. Day. But money, phooey.)

It sucks that I lost what little income I was bringing into the house. It sucks because I had lots of freedom to write or not write when I wanted. It sucks because I really liked the folks I worked with. It sucks because I found some validity in being a paid writer. It sucks.

But it’s not ok to steal. And I don’t want to be a party to that in any way. I realize that one blogger quitting one little freelance job won’t change the world. But it changes mine. I had to choose between additional income and my personal integrity. It was a no brainer, but it still sucks.

When this post went well everywhere, it was stolen, reposted, changed, trolled, abused, misused, etc far too many times for me to count or to keep up with. My words were stolen. My picture of my son were stolen. And it was dirty and low and plain not right. It was a betrayal. Some did it not knowing any better. Others did it maliciously. But either way, it wasn’t ok.

I have so little to give. My words. My thoughts. My heart. But I can try to give what I can with as much integrity as I can muster. I can try, every single day, to be true and honest and compassionate. I can try and fail and try again. I can try.

I can choose to do what is right or what is easy or what is most beneficial to me in some way. Those things are not always or often the same thing. So we have choices. Do I want to be a paid writer more than I want to do what I feel is right? Truthfully, I could probably have continued to write for them and most people have been none the wiser. But it would feel like I was pulling something over on someone.

I don’t want to do that to someone. Or be mistaken for someone that would.

So I quit the only paying job I currently have. And it sucks.

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71 Responses to Why I left Nickmom

  1. ray mancini December 16, 2012 at 1:25 am #

    according to some sites you quit b4 they could fire you for stealing articles. any truth to that??

  2. matt November 22, 2012 at 7:06 pm #

    I just wanted to say that I had never heard of your blog befor and stumbled on it well looking up stuff for research. That said I feel that from reading what I have read you are a stong mother and deserve congradulations for supporting your child in what he wanted to be and you are a strong person for sticking to your convictions when it comes to your integrity.

    Also just so you know baby boys where put in pink and baby girls in blue until the outset of world war 2 just incase ya need some ammo for argument

  3. Ceridwen November 1, 2012 at 11:55 am #

    Hi Sarah! No matter how hard it’s been for you, I think you did well, and soon you’ll find other ways to earn your keep (maybe because of how you’ve acted). I can totally relate to your reasons for leaving. The last job I’ve had, which was the one with which I paid my bills, I’ve left because the law firm I worked for was corrupt. I’m still unemployed, I may earn less in the next job I get, I’m facing the hardest times I’ve ever known, but I can’t regret what I’ve done.

    Actually not only on the internet, but also in the “real world”, reputation is all we have. And in the end, we only answer to our consciousness. If we set high standards for ourselves, we must act accordingly, even when it comes to our own survival. Somehow the universe will back us. As for those who remain in the wrong, especially if they know they are conniving at something wrong, one day they’ll answer for that.

    I wish you lots of luck!

  4. David Rigano October 12, 2012 at 11:05 am #

    You’ve been paid to write before and you will be paid to write again. It seems to me there was no need to hang on to a company that stole from others. Especially when you can find validity from those of us who follow your blog! (I know, I know, that’s not the kind of validity you can eat, but I hope it’s something!) Keep fighting the good fight!

  5. James October 11, 2012 at 3:55 am #

    You did the right thing even if it wasn’t in your best interest, that shows character.

  6. Joshua Issac October 6, 2012 at 10:59 am #

    NickMom is so annoying. I just wish that their stupid branding would go away from Shockwave.com.

  7. Lori Martin October 5, 2012 at 4:18 am #

    Integrity doesn’t always pay, but it feels good. I’m glad you did the right thing, plus trust me….you don’t want any part in the whole NickMom thing anyway, they’re going to be in a world of crap. Parents of toddlers everywhere are outraged that they have very adult content sharing a channel with a preschool aged children’s channel that was supposed to be 24 hours a day. They really just don’t care who they hurt in their efforts for ratings and money. I resent Viacom so badly right now.

  8. IfByYes September 28, 2012 at 6:24 pm #

    Good for you

  9. Støvkorn September 23, 2012 at 5:52 am #

    Good for you..you did the right thing! Damned sharks…

  10. Rose G September 21, 2012 at 9:45 pm #

    They should come screaming and begging YOU to return. You’ll be what they lack at the end of the day. I think I can safely say that I would have done the same as you have here. I would have walked away.
    Kudos for standing your ground, hold your head high and know that you did the right thing. I hope others follow your lead and it becomes viral. What they are doing is wrong, very wrong. How they are not owning up to is even worse.

    Good things do come to good people. I think yours will come around too. Hey, I don’t have any paid writing gigs, maybe I suck at it? But like you, when I lay my head down tonight I know that I gave it my all and I was honest in doing so.

  11. Mom101 September 21, 2012 at 3:44 pm #

    I know how hard it is to live your values when there’s work on the line. Congrats for doing what you think is right. New work will come that you can feel good about too.

  12. Shannon September 20, 2012 at 10:51 am #

    Good for you..you did the right thing. It hurts, but you walked away with integrity. Here’s hoping for a brighter future – all the best of luck to you.

  13. Lucretia September 19, 2012 at 12:19 pm #

    Add me to your fan club. Without integrity, we are just jackals with thumbs.

    Well done. Well said and well done.

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